Quickbooks 2015. A brand new install, sleek and powerful and ready for a new school year. Honestly, it couldn’t get much better than this. The grand features and brightly colored graphs were magnificently thrilling. It was just beautiful…. So beautiful in fact, that tears started streaming down my face in a steady, prolific flow.
It’s a wild ride, I’m telling you.
Recently, because of a medication, on regular intervals and without fail, I have these profuse tearful reactions. It is not because I am an overly sentimental person or prone to be teary. It’s not because there is anything that would truly be moving to me. It doesn’t matter what I am doing. I could be petting a puppy, or looking at grass, or admiring a row of good books…
Or using QuickBooks…
In spite of everything my personality typically is, this rises up. It hijacks my emotions and floods me with sentimental surges that make the most ludicrous things so absolutely, stunningly beautiful that rivers gush from my eyeballs.
Welcome to health class. There will be no awkward textbooks here, but the topic does require a bit of “straight forward talking.”
*whispers* I’m talking about hormones.
Poor hormones. Their reputation has been so tarnished…
But it’s not their fault. They are beautiful, wonderful, scientific things. Substances that deserve our awe and respect. There are at least 43 different chemicals that flow through your body and brain, helping us fall asleep and wake-up, and go to the bathroom. Hormones that make you feel happy and hormones that surge to carry you through stressful situations. Hormones that control your blood pressure and your glucose, and your heart rate. The balance of them in your system is the scientific explanation behind the personality God gave you. Altering a person’s hormones can make a shy, quiet person into a bubbly, flamboyant person.
So yeah…. Hormones are pretty incredible…
But I feel bad for them… because they got the short end of the stick.
They get all the blame when you’ve got your man curled up in a fetal position in a dark corner while you are on a wild rampage.
They take the heat for your snippy remarks when you are irritable.
They absorb all of the flack for your spree of hurtful actions when you let go of yourself.
It’s kind of pitiful really.
If I could talk to hormones, I’d tell them how sorry I feel for them.
“Sorry hormones… I’m sorry that women are blaming you for all of this negative stuff. You are wonderful little creatures that deserve better than this.”
Ok… So I wouldn’t actually talk to hormones.
But I do want to talk to us women for a bit.
Can we be honest?
For all that is blamed on “hormones” can we maybe step back and take a look at our behavior and realize that there is a little more to it than that?
Nobody is denying that they can throw us for a loop, take us on a crazy ride and make us feel all kinds of random surges…
But when it boils down to it… there’s an element that should still remain intact, regardless of emotion.
It’s called “self-control.”
That’s where we come in.
And when we fail there, it isn’t because of hormones… it is our own shortcoming.
Trampling others like a heartless monster, letting your emotions run unbridled, as you excuse unrestrained boorish behavior….
Stop entertaining the idea that that kind of behavior is synonymous with “hormones.”
It’s synonymous with a lack of discipline, a lack of self-control, and a lack of basic human dignity… all of which you can correct as a responsible, self-respecting woman.
There is no such thing as “I can’t help it!”
It’s time women stop leaning over on this crutch…
We all know that hormones can be dreadfully obnoxious to our systems…
But they’re not an excuse.
You may not be able to control what the glands in your brain are secreting but you can control what you do with it when it occurs. You can choose to succumb, or you can take a step back, recognize it for what it is, and refuse to be obnoxious and hurtful, self-pitying or depressed.
When hormones hijack your emotions, you can logically dismantle the emotion, and purpose to remain level-headed.
When I was growing up, my mother taught us girls that no one should ever be able to discern at any point where you are at in your cycle. Your demeanor should rise so far above the fluctuation of hormones that when people interact with you, your cycle never crosses their minds. That meant, that through self-discipline, we could choose to make sure it wasn’t obvious. No one had to witness our fluctuations. We had them under control. While women have been doing this for centuries, we are a far cry from that now…
But… There’s no reason we should be.
When hormones flare, we should make choices, not excuses.
We should govern our emotions and own up to our shortcomings.
For a godly woman, Christ living through you should be an everyday experience…
Not 21 out of 28.
P.S. If hormones are getting the best of you, here are three things to ask yourself.
Do I actually want to indulge in wrong behavior?
Regardless of what is generating it, wrong is still wrong. There is never a time when our own action is not our own choice. Are you choosing self or Christ? Galatians 2:20 says, I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. God knows what our flesh is comprised of. Hormones and all. If we didn’t have the power to crucify it, that instruction wouldn’t be in the Bible for you and I.
Is it time to see a doctor?
Hormones are a crucial element of your biological functioning. When one is off, it can create a domino effect of health issues and crises within your system. Sometimes, though we exercise all the self-control in the world, the emotion itself cannot be shaken. We can choose to push ourselves when cortisol is low, or be friendly when our body is not producing serotonin, but in the background, we are still battling the effects of a lacking or imbalanced hormone. Hormones are a legitimate element of health and wellness and there is no shame in seeing a doctor when something seems more severe or consistent than it should.
How is my prayer life?
I have never seen a praying woman lack victory over her emotions. When you have a daily encounter with God, the chances of you losing control of yourself are very slim. If your prayer life is non-existent or superficial, work on building a solid relationship with God and see if it doesn’t make a significant change in your life.