It’s not because I am afraid of being the object of it. If it is me they are blabbing about, I am generally more amused than anything. If what is being said is particularly harmful, I just look to the Lord and lean on His Word to give me the grace to deal with it.
What scares me about gossip is that so many Christians do not seem to care that it is a sin. A SIN!
I know… if you read a lot of my posts, you caught my pattern of emphasis there.
I would like to REALLY emphasize this though….
Gossip is a SIN!
James 1:26 states ever so plainly: “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.”
Your entire religion is vain if you gossip.
Doesn’t that bother you? Doesn’t that frighten you a little bit? Doesn’t that deter you from opening your mouth?
Whether it’s to your siblings, your BFF, your mom, your pastor’s wife, your prayer chain, your Facebook wall, your twitter followers, etc… It is a sin that will keep you out of Heaven! A sin that jeopardizes your soul. A sin that GRIEVES the Father.
Recently, I was absolutely mortified at the display of blatant, unrestricted slander and gossip taking place on a public forum, and it was all done by people that are calling themselves Christians. When I saw their words my soul felt as though it could vomit. My heart broke as I contemplated the way they were dragging my Savior’s name through this muck and mire of sharp, open criticism of “fellow” Christians who really had done no harm to them whatsoever. To top it all off, all of this was done shamelessly before unbelievers. What person would want a Christ claimed by people who are wallowing in the waste of vicious rumors?
Not many, I can assure you.
Can I break this down for you? Gossip is a grave danger. From the little “Did you see what she was wearing?” to the blatant “I heard she was [insert any and every incriminating deed about situations you know nothing about.]”
It’s an easy trap to fall into… especially if you are a young lady. It’s an easy trap to drag others into with you… especially if you are a role model to someone else…
Ladies in leadership, in the ministry, in positions of influence, I’m talking to you.
I can say that because I’ve been on both sides of that fence. I’ve been the young lady who was hanging out and talking to older women in the ministry when they swung into gossip mode, and I faltered against my better judgment. Under the pressures to be “like them” and be part of the conversation, I joined in. The actions of great women who I considered to be godly made it hard for me to stand up against what I knew in my heart was wrong!
And… unfortunately I have been the lady in leadership who had an opportunity to steer the conversation away from gossip, but did not for whatever reason.
Whatever the reason, it surely had a root.
When our jaws start flying, there’s usually something behind it, other than what we are actually saying. Whether you are gossiping about someone’s poor choice in shoes, lack of character, or immoral sins… you’re opening a window for the world to see who you are, and what you are corrupted by.
Bitterness? Jealousy? Self-righteousness? Ashamed of what is right?
There is something in your soul that needs attention. Something deep within you that requires a sincere heart seeking God until it is prayed all the way through.
Even if you are confiding your gossip to the most respectable, most trustworthy secret-keeper in your life, there is a reason, and that reason taints your beauty. It is a stain upon the righteous woman God intends for you to be. It’s a stench where there should be sweetness.
When you can no longer refrain from taking mere forgivable thoughts and dispensing them from your lips into a world where they cannot be retracted, erased or deleted, there is a heart issue… and that heart issue has gotten to such a point that it is boiling over and spewing out of your mouth. Luke 6:45 says it well, when it states. “…of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.”
I heard a quote recently that stated that in much more plain terminology:
“The reason you have a potty in your mouth is because you have a sewer in your heart.”
Gossip is a sin in itself that needs to be repented of. When you start propelling thoughts in your head toward headlines, you can cause a lot of hurt and irreversible damage.
We can fight the urges and temptations as they come, and we can bite our tongue in a moment of weakness, but those actions are about as effective as mowing down weeds.
Ladies, let’s not forget our responsibility to be a light and example to others. Let’s not forget Who we are representing with our lives and our speech. Let’s not neglect to see the others following behind us, learning from our ways, shaping their lives after the pattern we are setting before them.
Let’s not forget that our speech is not only a reflection of us, but of our respect for our husband and his reputation. Nothing will damage a man’s ministry like a wife who gossips.
The next time you find yourself struggling against gossip, and you are finding it hard to resist, take some time to ask yourself why and get to the bottom of the issue.
Take some time before God, and pray the matter through until you’ve pulled up the roots because until then…
Your gossip is doing more talking about your heart than your lips are doing about others.
An enlightening view of Christians who gossip in John Bevere’s book “Rescued.”