• Character

    Marriage and Misery Don’t Have to be Synonymous

    As an engaged couple preparing to wed, Mark and I were inundated with warnings that one day, we would have a fight. You can always count on seasoned married folk to promise that newlywed bliss will eventually dissipate into mutual aggravation. But I feel like telling some young couple that just because they say its inevitable, doesn’t mean your fate is sealed. We know because we have never had a fight. Weird, right? I’m not saying that it won’t happen one day. I kind of think it will eventually. We have a lifetime of human frailty and weakness ahead of us, after all. But to get through four years of…

  • Life as a Wife,  Wedding

    Wedding Bibles: More Than A Symbol

    I think I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I am a sentimentalist. Like many women, I am very fond of little trinkets, tokens, and keepsakes that evoke a flood of special memories. I save almost everything that has any remote significance. The items I hold most dear are the mementos intricately linked to my husband and the relationship God built between us. My wedding dress and veil, cards and love letters from him, an impressive collection of dried roses and petals. Dozens of little shreds of paper that probably look like garbage to others, but are actually sweet notes written on napkins or ripped corners of notebook paper…

  • Life as a Wife,  Wedding

    Why We Don’t Wear Wedding Bands

    We broke a cardinal rule of society. We did not exchange rings at our wedding. Most people do not dare to ask why, but we get some funny looks from time to time. I do not doubt the absence of such a “fundamental aspect of marriage” is very perplexing to a great number of people. No wedding bands on the fingers of a happily married Christian couple? I’m sure more than one has thought “You people are not normal.”   So what were we thinking? Some may assume it is because of possible ties to pagan rituals and roots in magic. To be truthful, I have never looked this up…

  • Character

    Two Sides of Contentment

    It never ceases to amaze me, how God can “recycle” the lessons He teaches us, and 5 years after He taught it, He can bring it back just as effectively, but in an amplified version. It’s kind of like learning that your “Topic Sentence” for grade school essays is the foundation for understanding and creating your “Thesis Statement” in High School and college. Recently, the Lord has been speaking to me about contentment. When it is proper and when it is not. For instance, Joshua says “… Alas, O Lord GOD, wherefore hast thou at all brought this people over Jordan, to deliver us into the hand of the Amorites,…

  • Life as a Wife

    The Magical Moment You Become Wonder Wife

    Every girl dreams of that day when her knight in shining armor whisks her away on a black stallion (or white!) and they ride off into the sunset together toward their happily ever after where she stands tall and confident as the most phenomenal, incredible, outstanding wife ever imagined in all of history. We imagine ourselves greeting our sweaty hard-working husband at the door with a kiss and a five course meal laid out on the table behind us, which by the way, we whipped up with our hands tied behind our backs and it turned out great in spite of the fact that we were missing half of the…